Chapter 2 - How to Increase Self-Belief

Now think of something that you would love to do or try but have avoided doing as a result of fear and feeling inadequate in some way. Become aware of the quality of your thinking and make some notes.

Remember courage is a state of mind. It is vital that you understand that being courageous does not mean not being afraid, it does not mean that you suddenly stop having self-doubts. What it does mean, is doing things despite those fears and doubts. Often when we think we lack courage, it is a screen for not wanting to experience emotional pain, frustration or failure, and if you are honest with yourself, you will begin to acknowledge this fact too.

As a result we use avoidance as a way of coping, which is by far a very poor long-term solution. Ironically, not only does avoidance make fears stronger, but it leads to a cascade of negative feelings including guilt, regret, anger and anxiety, not to mention the many missed opportunities as a result of avoidance. Had I not called that company when I did, I would never had met the many amazing people I encountered back then, nor gained invaluable experience.

A great way to help you to get clear on your strengths and qualities is to do a personal strengths inventory or as I like to call a PSI. By knowing your strengths, you can focus your efforts on the things that you are good at, and uncover what sets you apart from other people.

When thinking about your strengths, don’t limit yourself to just education or work skills. Think of your personality traits, personal achievements and interests too.

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